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influencer John Cijntje, This week Master Your Mind-platform book session, Upcoming Chit Chat Workshop and this week Tips

Posted on October 15, 2018 at 2:15 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (15th- 23rd of October) we will present an interview we had with influencer John Cijntje CEO of Autobusbedrijf Curaçao NV (ABC-NV); we will invite you to our next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 18th of October at Biblioteka Nashonal; we will invite you for our next upcoming workshop at Chit Chat Mensing's Caminada on the 25th of October; we will end this week blog with some personal video-links on 'Well-being and Martin Seligman P.E.R.M.A.-model' and every day, we will upload one of these links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


John Cijntje, a servant leader

John is the director of ABC-NV and he was born in Curaçao. John has 2 sisters. He is married and has a son whom is turning 14 years old soon. He holds a masters degree in Business Administration at the RUG Groningen and after writing just one job application letter at SOAB, he was hired and started his career as an organizational advisor at SOAB, where he worked for almost 11 years.


What are your hobbies?
John: “I love practicing yoga, I love reading and watching lots of inspiring and educational You Tubes. I seldom watch TV.”


John after SOAB, what was your next career move?
“After SOAB a a organizational advisor I went to Selikor NV and became a Project manager. In fact I switched seat, from being an advisor at SOAB, I became an implementor at Selikor. Because of my abilities to communicate and motivate people in due time at Selikor I got switched and promoted to become Operations Manager. That was a big swith, because from having no employees to manage as a Project manager to become Operations Manager with the responsibility of over 200 employees was a big swith in responsibilities. But I took the challenge and after some years I applied to become CEO of ABC NV. I am always working on further improving myself and I don’t shy away from challenges. After a long but thorough application procedure that took 1 year, I was selected to become the CEO of ABC-NV out of a group of 5.”

What were defining moments in your life that later on became a blessing of sorts?
“When I was an adolescent, as a teenager I had to deal with a lot of uncertainties. So I took solace into reading and I read a lot. At the age of 18 and in my early twenties I read a lot of self help books and this triggered me to look at my strengths. By doing that, I was able to turn those uncertainties and challenges into opportunities to grow. My biggest strength is my communications skill and as a people manager I have this ability to walk my talk.

During all these years people started noticing my unique abilities and talents to be able to influence lots of people as an excellent communicator. And as I mentioned before in my late teens, early twenties I started reading about self-help books and I was since then into continuous growth. And people started taking notice of my abilities. In the beginning I wasn’t that aware of this. It is like scouts for professional sports that can spot talented young players. Well something more or less comparable happened to me. Other people took notice of my abilities and after becoming more conscious about this I started to cheerish these strengths and consciously further develop these abilities.”

Another defining moment in ABC-NV of late:
“There was a strike and we as the Management of ABC-NV were taken completely by surprise. I use my communication skills and inate wisdom to respond and listen to what was meant to be said by the the group of strikers, non members of the oficial union and I didn’t react in an impulsive surpressive way and this change the course of events. We were able to start a dialogue and solve all the issues that we were able to solve. That was a big lesson learned, meaning seek to understand (respond) first before you react.“


What are your short term and long term business goals?
“My short term goal: I really want to transform ABC-NV to become a model company in terms of corporate governance and let it become a strong broad base employees driven company and so that it can become the best it can be.

For the longer term being CEO of ABC NV is not my final stop. I want to grow further and become my best self and I will not limit the role I want to play to only Curaçao as I want to start my own company in the future. Basically, I want to be help transform other organizations in Curaçao and internationally especially in the Caribbean. As a professional myself I firmly belief, that we as professionals should not be self-serving only, but use our abilities and knowledge to serve the society and the good of all humanity. So that is my long term goal.”

You are now very involved in leadership development in Curaçao as one of the coregroup members of the Whole Island Leadership Expedition? How does this platform offers help to develop leadership in Curaçao?
“The Whole Island Leadership Expedition is an initiative in its incubator phase for leaders who want to collectively make a positive impact in Curaçao and the world) is unique in, that It helps participants to share experiences with other leaders and share how they look at things and themselves. It helps to look at how leadership can help solve our different societal challenges and it is a way to be of service to the greater good/community.”


Whom are the persons that have inspired you the most in your career?
I was very inspired by Nelson Mandela when I started my reading journey. After reading a poem in a book about Nelson Mandela, where in this poem, figuratively the Robben Island expresses her inability to break the spirit of Nelson Mandela as a prisoner, this inspired me a lot.”


What were 5 of the most Influential Books that changed your life?

“In my case I can mention 3 books which made me stop and think about myself and my purpose in life.

1. 'The Robben Island' because there is where I met Nelson Mandela and that inspired me a lot: The strong focusing, responding to circumstances, on courage and perseverance to do things no matter what;

2. 'The Sky is the limit', that explains that our goal is to gain wisdom and experience and all of that is an inward proces. You are responsible for this yourself.

3. 'The power of your subconscious mind', because it shows how changing your thought patterns can produce dramatic improvements and turnarounds in your life.”


When you turn 85 years old on your birthday party, what would you want your family and friends, to say about you?
“That I was always working on improving myself and using that knowledge to serve the community and the greater good.”


How would you to describe John Cijntje in one word or one sentence?

“A servant leader.”


As the coregroup of Share2Uplift we love and deeply respect John, because of his servant and transformative leadership style and drive for continious personal growth to serve the community at large. Definitely one of the 250 ethical leaders of our Island, that continuously works at connecting dots and creating value for the whole of the society. Share2Uplift is totally aligned with his ambition and his short and long term goals.


The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.

As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.

As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.


Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 18th of October
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 18th of October, at Biblioteka Nashonal di Korsou.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books 'Why Nations fail, the origins of power, prosperity and poverty', by Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson (presented by Dr. Miguel Goede) and 'The power of eight, Harnessing the Miraculous Energies of a small group to heal others, your life and the world', by Lynn McTaggart (presented by Ivan Kuster).


We will connect the content of these books with what we presented in past MYM-sessions, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 18th of October.



Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada on Thursday the 25th of October

We would also like to invite you to our next workshop:

'Connect, elevate and inspire when communicating.
How creating safety and being respectful make all the difference.
'

Date: Thursday the 25th of October

Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada. Contact for more info!



Personal coaching tips

In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some Uplifting video links personal video-links on ”Well-being and Martin Seligman P.E.R.M.A.-model” and every day, we will upload one of these links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.



What are the 5 Ways to Wellbeing? - YouTube
/www.youtube.com/watch?v=yF7Ou43Vj6c

How Mindfulness Empowers Us: An Animation Narrated by Sharon Salzberg - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzKryaN44ss&t=15s

Beyond Happiness: Flourishing-PERMA model - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?vWavCPydQ5k

What is Positive Psychology? - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qJvS8v0TTI&t=9s

Dr. Martin Seligman - YouTube on P.E.R.M.A.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=l36oDgU09r0

Well-Being Defined - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?vGCKHX4Lr9o


Influencer Martin van den Blink, upcoming Master Your Mind Platform book session and this week tips on Happiness

Posted on October 8, 2018 at 3:35 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week blog (8th - 14th of October) we will present to you an interview we have had with Martin van den Blink, one of the founders of the Whole Island Leadership Expedition; we will invite you to our next Master Your Mind Platform session of the 18th of October; we share with you some personal coaching links on 'Happiness' and each day in the coming week, we will upload one of these video-links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


Martin van den Blink, everyday in everyway expanding my boundaries

Martin can you tell to us where you were born and tell us something of your family?
“I was born in Holland, where my parents soon after I was born, left to Curaçao because my farther was a teacher at Schroederschool. I grew up in Curaçao where I feel totally at home. Being in contact with nature, walking bare footed in the hot sand, the blue sea in Curaçao gives me a feeling of being infinitely connected with it. I was at the Peter Stuyvesant college and before graduation, let’s say about half way at Stuyvesant, our family moved back to Holland, where in Utrecht I got a masters degree in History. I specialized on the history of the Caribbean Basin and my final thesis has focused on the relationship between Curaçao and Venezuela in the first half of the 20th century. In those days we also had a refugee problem of Venezuelans, because President Juan Vicente Gomez brutally surpressed all opposition. The most important issue is, as is still the case in these days, the human dimension of this drama that is unfolding in Venezuela. I can’t close my eyes for this. I have carefully concluded, that after all these years now in the 21st century, we didn’t grow after all these years. In those years the refugees were immediately expedited often to other countries in the region and this is happening again now.”

What makes you relationship with Curaçao so special?
“If you have grown up in Curaçao and then went to Holland back for further studies, you will always have a navel string kind of relationship with the island. That feeling has never subsided and after living for quite some years in Holland, my wife Maya and myself decided to return back to Curaçao with my son Siddhart (now 14 years old), just like my parents did by the way with me. Siddhart was also only a couple of months old. We decided to start all over again in Curaçao. Siddhart is a fantastic son, very much into sports and has a highly developed feeling of rightfulness. His greatest strength is, that he has a tenacity to keep trying until he has mastered any new ability/skill. My wife was one of the founders of Greenkidz, a highly succesful venture to teach schoolchildren environmental issues, I am a director at Balance Consultancy Group and I enjoy every single day of the intensity on the island. I can really immerse in nature on the island. Curaçao has a special energy that makes the connection between myself, life and the world much more natural and easier then other places in the world.”


How important is personal development for you?
“I consider it important that I keep taking steps to further develop myself personally. On the physical level I do a lot of sports and I am long distance kajakker. Together with two of my friends we formulated a goal, to bit by bit expand our boundaries with kajak-trips. So we have been to Klein Curaçao and later from Bonaire we kajakked to Curaçao. Ultimately we undertook three real big kajak trips: One to Venezuela and two to Colombia. On these trips you must be able to keep your ultimate personal composure: the enormity and the forces in sea surrounding you is overwhelming and beautiful at the same time. It requires lots of mental strength and teamwork to undertake such expeditions and to succesfully finish them.”

On a “sit-on-top kajak”, you are literally sitting in the water and especially during the long nights when the sea is turbulent with at times stormy winds, it requires maximum stamina and persistence. I have come to learn, that I can really enjoy this immensely, even though this at times can be physically very demanding. The oneness with nature becomes like a meditation, I can immerse totally in the greater whole of things. Knowing that you are one with the evolutionary Life Force that surrounds you, gives you such a deep sense of peacefulness and confidence. 


How would you describe the analogy between kajakking and life in itself?
“In life you can choose to go and be pulled by the currents of changes, that will never stop and if you don’t watch out, you can easily become a victim of these changes. As a coach, consultant and business owner, I deliberately choose to take the lead over my life in an environment where change is inevitable and I deliberatey create an environment that inspires me and challenges me. The most important factors are my own freedom, the people in my environment, that is what inspires me in the work I do and the circumstances, that give me energy. From Andrew Cohen I have learned, to ” Don’t avoid anything” and that you should “Confront everything”. Being an entrepreneur feels to me, like jumping out of an airplane and on your way down discover the parachute to make you land safely. That is a real challenge and this made me tweak my business model to such an extent, that I now collaborate mainly with people that are free, whom are passionate about the idea that from a totally independent position, it is perfectly possible to collaborate on a higher (spiritual) level, instead off collaborating simply and only to earn money. Collaboration in this way generates new, innovation, synergy and a drive to strengthen each other. That creates a sustainable connection with a sense of unity among each other, that according to me is far greater and bigger than work on itself.”


What drives your choices in life, or call it your BIG WHY?

The reason and drive for my choice is, because of my evolutionary understanding of the theory of Spiral Dynamics that indicates or is telling us that the world moves on with or without you. This requires you to choose based on your own choices, you choose to become the master of your own destiny and very specifically add value to the world based on all your potentials. You can add value as a coach, consultant, fellow co-creator, citizen of the island, husband and father, friend and as a human being. It is a choice.”

What is the biggest boundary that you are challenging now?
As one of the founders of the Whole Island Leadership Expedition (The Whole Island Leadership Expedition is an initiative in its incubator phase for leaders who want to collectively make a positive impact in Curaçao and the world) it is exactly that what I consider important. To meet people as they are developing their potential and strenghts, show this in Curaçao first and let it sprout suffisient roots here. When we where kajakking to go to Colombia that was a challenge, I now experience the Whole Island Leadership Expedition as a real and my Biggest challenge up to now.

It requires courage to start this journey on our own compass without exactly knowing or able to predict where we will land/end our journey. Every little step we take will have to fit our needs and what we stand for. It requires trust of those that are in this journey with me, that they will do their best and utmost for themself and for the island, each one of us in their own way and manner, but than based on an ego-surpassing-perspective. And that is what we need on our island that will ultimately benefit all of us.”


Martin last year November/December via your cousin Marianna van den Blink, we expanded our own personal boundaries because of Marianne’s excellent facilitation in a workshop called “Discover your core (Ontdekl je kern)”, we were able to uncover some of our blind spots. We have heard that she is coming back to Curaçao, even though she has a very busy schedule in Holland. When will she be here exactly?
“Yes she has become widely popular in Holland. I highly recommend people to attend.
• She will be offering the Basic course on the 30th of November and the 1st of December;
• The next level of her course (in dutch it is called “verdiepingscursus” is on the 23rd and 24th of November;
• The full course that she will also be offering, will start in group 1 on the 16th of November,
• The second group will start on the 17th of November.”
We highly recommend these courses, for more information on these courses contact Martin via Landhuis Zuikertuin, Zuikertuintjeweg z/n, Willemstad, Curaçao
T: +5999 737 8831
E: vandenblink@balancecaribbean.com
W: www.balancecaribbean.com
M: +5999 528 8833 Skype: balanceconsultancygroup

As the coregroup of Share2Uplift we love and deeply respect Martin, because of his tenacity to continuously expand his boundaries and his extensive experience working as a reputable consultant in Curaçao, other Islands in the Dutch Kingdon and in Holland. He is now expanding his own personal boundaries to manage his ego and connecting that for the good of all. Definitely one of the 250 ethical leaders of our Island, that continuously works at connecting dots and creating value for the whole of the society. Share2Uplift is totaly aligned with his ambition short and long term goals.

The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.
As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.
As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.


Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 18th of October
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 18th of October, at Biblioteka Nashonal di Korsou.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books 'Why Nations fail, the origins of power, prosperity and poverty', by Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson (presented by Dr. Miguel Goede) and 'The power of eight, Harnessing the Miraculous Energies of a small group to heal others, your life and the world', by Lynn McTaggart (presented by Ivan Kuster).

We will connect the content of these books with what we presented in past MYM-sessions, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 18th of October.




Personal coaching tips

In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some Uplifting video links related to Happiness. Every day in the week we will upload one of these video-links our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

How To Be Happy - The Secret of Authentic Happiness - Martin Seligman - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mp8xN1K-ITs

10 Habits of Happy People - How To Be Happy - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=mp0JCvebcAw

3 Ways To Be a Little Happier Every Day - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=789O-vkIBSI

Tony Robbins--HOW TO BE HAPPY - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXafk_iC8m0

Five Ways to Become Happier Today - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLhpyzVTc8A&t=16s

The science of Subjective Well Being, a.k.a Happiness. - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?vPbjK3MmjL0


Influencer Leona Bishop, this month Book Session and coaching tips

Posted on October 1, 2018 at 1:45 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (1st – 7th of October) we will have an interview with Leona Bishop one of the founders and core members of the Whole Island Leadership Expedition; We will invite you for our next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 18th of October and we share with you some personal coaching tips as video links based on Lynn McTaggert’s “The power of Eight” book, one of the books that we will be presenting on the 18th of October. Each day in the week we will upload one of these video-links also on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page as warming up for our presentations on the 18th of October.


Leona Bishop, a remarkable transformative influencer

Leona is born in England from a Dutch mother and English father and has two sisters and a brother. She is mother of two daughters and is living in Curaçao since 2015 as she accompanied her husband who accepted to work on the island. In a way, it was a reunion of sorts with Curaçao because in the past – over 20 years ago - she worked, via the City of Rotterdam, on various projects in the field of community development (Ban Bario Bèk), youth and education. She holds a masters degree in social history with a focus on psychology and communication and has completed professional certification in organizational development and change management. She has an extensive career working as a policy advisor, project and program manager & change manager in The Netherlands and also internationally, for example in Cabo Verde, South Africa, Morocco and Costa Rica. Leona has over 20 years of international experience in leadership, team and organizational development both in the public and private sector. She started her own business 10 years ago and recently renamed her company into 'Dare to Care Leadership'.
Go to: Leona Bishop – Curaçao – Dare to Care Leadership for more information.

Leona is an expert in working on transformational change in leaders, teams and orgnizations. She has a wide applicable knowledge of different approaches and an extensive tool kit. Leona completed training in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Systemic Work and Group Dynamics and is a certified Enneagram Coach, a licensed Functional Fluency & TIFF Provider and an advanced trainee in Transactional Analysis.
Leona is also a trainer for Functional Fluency and TIFF(c) As we have understood it, Functional Fluency enables clients to become more self-aware of disempowering beliefs and enables them to re-address these beliefs and ultimately their behavior into more effective ones.

Could you explain how it differentiates itself from other approaches aimed at changing teams?
Leona: “Functional Fluency, created by Susannah Temple, is about building effective relationships. It is a clever and simple model for understanding how people behave, and a practical framework to help them ‘respond’ more and ‘react’ less. The Temple Index of Functional Fluency -TIFF© is a personal development tool based on the Functional Fluency model. To my knowledge, TIFF is the only validated psychometric behavioral tool in the world. Functional Fluency and TIFF differentiate themselves from other models and psychometric instruments because the model together with the tool give a clear insight into how a person divides his or her energy over nine modes of behavior, and and how effective that person is. The leading question is: “Do I and others benefit from my behavior and am I achieving my goals”?


This simple and practical model and tool – together with the guidance of a licensed TIFF Provider – help people to become aware of their own life story and beliefs that are holding them and others back, and how they can move beyond these limiting stories to more accurate and empowering ones. People are able to see how they can create space to work on their personal and professional growth by actively and consciously identifying and letting go of ineffective behavior and choosing to use effective behavior to achieve what is important to them and others. People can learn how to choose their behavior in order to maximize their effectiveness in all areas of their life. What I love about Functional Fluency and TIFF is that the use of them promote the self-awareness and understanding that enhances emotional literacy. TIFF is a valuable tool for consultants, trainers, counsellors, coaches, mentors and psychotherapists and is being used with leaders & managers, teams & staff groups, teachers & students, parents & children, and business & life partners. It provides an innovative framework to help people bring about positive change.

In short, an effective gift for personal development, leadership development, team development and all places where people work together and live together.”

As you have worked in different countries in the world like Cabo Verde, South Africa, Holland of course and more, what are the differences and similarities that you are encountering as you are offering your services in Curacao?
Leona: “Everywhere I have been I notice how leaders struggle with leveraging the potential and resources in their teams, organizations, and countries to achieve the impact and results they desire. Very often people and systems get stuck in dysfunctional patterns, convictions and beliefs that prevent them from developping in effective and sustainable ways. In Curaçao it is not different. But all countries and places are different which implies that I – when offering my services – need to understand the history, the culture and the context people are working in. Instead of looking at an individuals’ development, team or organizational development in a vacuum, I need to look at it within the cultural context and the prevailing ‘ways of looking at the world’ and the structure of associated (conditioned) responses’ of ones’ broader social and environmental context.


A similarity I notice in all places I have been, is that each and every one of us is at a different stage of his or her psychological development and level of consciousness, with related patterns of thinking, sets of values and beliefs. So, just like in for instance The Netherlands, people in Curaçao are either more or less self-aware and paying more or less attention to their own personal and spiritual growth. A big difference between The Netherlands and Curaçao is that The Netherlands has a broad cultivated culture for coaching (individual and in the workplace), whilst Curaçao still needs to overcome the barriers of a coaching culture.


We have come to know you as a very altruistic person. You charge for your services but you also offer some of your services for free because of your commitment to serve. Where did that come from? For example you have organized a course in Functional Fluency in Curaçao and it was part of an effort to enbale local facilitators to master this technique and we now have eight certified Functional Fluency & TIFF Providers on Curaçao. But you are also a volunteer in Green Kidz and are now involved in an innovative program at an AGO/VSBO school where you put in way more time than that is required by the schoolboard. What drives you to do this?

Leona: “Firstly please let me rectify on the Functional Fluency course. I didn’t do that free of charge ;-). Although I did set up the course because I don’t want to keep this knowledge to myself. Working with Functional Fluency and TIFF© has greatly increased my own personal and professional effectiveness. As I am passionate about improving individual and collective well-being, I want to share my learning and enable coaches and counsellors throughout the Caribbean to continue to grow in their professional roles, so that they can support their clients even more effectively for increasing success and satisfaction both personally and professionally. I don’t really know where my altruistic drive comes from. I believe, I have an instinctual capacity for doing so. I know that I have a brain circuitry that allows me to be sensitive to what other people are thinking and feeling, to empathize with their suffering, to care about their welfare, and to translate that information into compassionate action. Functional Fluency has made me become very aware of this. Looking back I can’t say that the altruistic drive I have now has always been at the fore. A lot of the time I was more in the survival mode so to speak. I considered providing for and raising my two daughters and my own personal and professional development first and foremost. But at present I am at a stage in my life and in the very fortunate position that I can give back to society and the world. And I feel very grateful that I am able and allowed to do so.”



What is your BIG WHY or driving motivation to be whom you are right now? Or where do you want to be 10 to 15 years from now?

Leona: “The common thread in my life is being a change agent. I seem to have a constitutional unwillingess to accept the status quo when it seems unfair, unhealthy and/or destructive. I have as far as I can remember the determination to try to find a better way. I think the process might have started when I was a young girl growing up in the UK in a very strict and authoritarian environment. There wasn’t much room for self-actualisation in the environment and system I grew up in. You can’t choose the environemnt you are born in to. It can seem very unfair. It took me a long time to discover, that how I had been conditioned and the story I had created about myself, others and the world wasn’t at all serving myself and others. That this story was actually holding me back to become a better person. I think that this experience eventually triggered the drive in me to support people in their own personal growth.

Another thing that comes to mind is when I was involved in an awareness-raising campain in the context of the United Nations Conference on Environment and Development in 1992. I came across the Brundlandt report, Our Common Future, which placed environmental issues firmly on the political agenda. It aimed to discuss the environment and development as one single issue. The unfair distribution of recources and the social and economical problems caused by it in the world really got to me. At the age of 26, I became very aware that our responsibility is to leave the world a better and more just place. So when I see unfair and/or destructive things happening, I have the urge to do something about it.

Lots of problems need solutions, but in the course of my carreer I’ve been more and more drawn to the cause of leadership advancement and the empowerment of the highly caring, courageous and collaborative leader. As the quality of our leadership directly affects the quality of our lives. I am talking about leaders with big ambitions who are able to set aside ego and self-interest and who are able to bring a new approach that serves others well and creates superior value and sustainable performance results for the betterment of our planet.

I believe that there is a compelling need for new thinking. How many leaders question themselves about why they lead and why peolpe should be led by them? How much thought do leaders give to the importance of their opportunity to influence people and have a positive impact on a team, an organization, society, a country?

Tough economic times, dramatically shifting world events, huge environmental issues, unmet needs in many countries all call for looking beyond the current composition of leadership for different answers. To achieve sustainable long-term economic growth and well-being, leadership must become more loving, caring, courageous and balanced.”

You are very involved in leadership development, are you willing to share what you are doing now to enhance leadership development in Curaçao ?
Leona: “Firstly, by coaching and training leaders and teams in organizations. I am working with various leaders and organizations on Curaçao and Bonaire, including the school on Curaçao mentioned before. A big part of the voluntary work I do at this school has to do with coaching and enhancing distibuted leadership amongst management and teachers.

Secondly, I initiated the Whole Island Leadership Expedition together with you (Ivan Kuster) and Martin van den Blink. As you know we have started a journey together with 16 to 20 people from various pillars of society who are all leaders in their own right. Together we are exploring what whole island leadership entails, what we need to step into whole island leadership, discovering which leadership attributes, styles and skills are needed to meet the future head-on, leaving old, outdated leadership models behind to strengthen our resolve. And all of this in the context of leading on a Small Island Developing State (SIDS). And as you always say Ivan “. . .we are actively connecting dots and aligning efforts”..

Thirdly, I am one of the initiators of the recently created Simia, a movement aiming to enhance (self-) leadership development among Millennials in the Caribbean.

Whom are the persons that have inspired you the most in your career? Were they always positive role models or where their also negative role models that you didn’t want to identify with?
Leona: “There have been quite a number of people who have inspired me in my career and/or gave me signs which way to go, both positive and negative role models. I was advisor to Bram Peper on international affairs when I was working for the City of Rotterdam. He was the mayor of Rotterdam at the time and he inspired me to believe in myself, my talents and qualities. And later on in my carreer I remember the head of Project Management Bureau who I then thought to be a real bully. But he forced me to take a good look at myself. In my job I needed to become better at guiding change and he sent me to a course to enhance my personal effectiveness. At first I was really offended, but during the course I really came to appreciate this ‘bully’ whilst discovering so many dysfunctional behaviors and patterns in myself that were preventing me from being an effective change manager. Later on in my career I was inspired by a young consultant whom I was working with at the time. I was putting all of my energy into this huge change program within a large organization.

One day he looked me in the eyes and said: “Leona, I see you working your tail off for this organization, but where are you heading? What is your magnetic North?”. Well that question really inspired me to think about what I really wanted. A year after I handed in my resignation and started my own business. And since then I have always consciously searched for people who can inspire me to become a better version of myself. Two very special people I would like to mention are Elly Voorend and Piet van Haasteren. They taught me a great deal about coaching and encouraged me to study Transactional Analysis, which I use daily in my personal and professional life.”

What are some of the challenges, lessons learned, that you have encountered in your life when you ultimately discovered your talents and strenghts ? You are a coach but are you being mentored and coached and how important is that?
Leona: “At first when I discovered the path of personal growth, I thought after reading one book on spirituality that I understood it all. Hahaha. I was rather self-righteous at the time. The biggest challenge has been to recognize and acknowledge my shortcomings without judgement towards myself, observe my dysfunctional beliefs and convictions and redirect my ineffective habits and behaviors into more effective ones. Along the way I also discovered my talents and strengths, that I am now using to support others in their personal and professional growth. I have learned to be a lot more humble.

I am still being coached and mentored. I check in with my supervisor every 6 weeks and he helps me unravel things I get stuck in. I think it is extremely important to surround oneself with coaches and mentors because we all have blind spots and we can only learn and grow when we get feedback from others and do something with it. Coaches and mentors are all around us. One of my biggest mentors is for instance are my two daughters, offering me very clear and confronting mirrors.”

What are your strengths?
Leona: “On the top of my mind: Optimistic, enthousiastic, caring, compassionate, empathic, creative, purposeful, opend-minded, analytical, spontaneous, resilient and a life-long learner.”



How would you describe Leona in one word or a sentence?
Leona: “Physis.”


What are your future plans? Can you share with us what are your business goals for short and long term?

“Short term:
- Help create a coaching culture in Curaçao and other Caribbean Islands by offering my services
- Create a platform where demand and supply comes together
- Provide the Functional Fluency and TIFF Providers Licensing Training annually and in-company for coaches, counsellors, mentors, trainers, teachers and psychotherapists so they can spread the use of Functional Fluency in organizations, teams, groups and individuals in the Caribbean, and provide TIFF© as a tool for increasing success and satisfaction both personallyand professionally.
- Offer a Coaching Course for coaches and HR-professionals
- Offer workshops and training for people who want to maximize their effectiveness in all areas of their lives
- Create and facilitate the Whole Island Leadership Expedition for leaders who want to collectively make a positive impact in the world.
- Help transform the AGO/VSBOschool I am working with to implement the concept of Whole School, Whole Community, Whole Child succesfully

Long term:
- My ambition is to set up a Transformational Leadership Training & Coaching Hub for the Caribbean, based on Curaçao. Not alone but together with people who share the same vision, purpose and convictions. A sprinkling of transformational leaders at the top, however inspirational, is not enough to change companies or governments operate. The weight of cultural inertia is too great. But when that sprinkling grows until the transformationl leaderhip group is about one-third, important things will happen. Different decisions are made and the move toward true wholeness in leadership gains momentum. If we can get a criticial mass of at least 30% transformational leader as partners at the power tables, we have a chance to change the world. My aim is to contribute towards reaching that 30%.”

What would you want your Loved Ones, family, friends and others to say about you let’s say 10 to 15 years years from now?
Leona: “She has had the courage to go for what she believed in, she has walked her talk, she is a role model for others, compassionate and caring, a secure base for many people, she has a great sense of humor and has learned not to take herself so seriously and she has positively contributed to the world.”


What were 5 of the most Influential Books that changed your life?

- The seat of the soul, by Gary Zukav
- Only Fear Dies, by Barry Long
- The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle
- The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri
- Het temmen van de Os (Taming the Wild Ox), by Nico Tydeman, based on Ten Oxherding Pictures, by Zen
Master Kakuan, China, 12th C.



Do you want to share anything else that might be relevant for those reading this blog?
”I think that this is quite enough about me. Actually I would love to hear from people reading this blog what thoughts and feelings have come up whilst reading....”

Send us your comments to Leona driectly to:
www.ffcaribbean.net
Info@ffcaribbean.net
Tel: (+5999) 5107109

Or send us your feedback to sixtaivan@gmail.com

Cell (+5999) 6986437 or to contact on our website.  

As the coregroup of Share2Uplift we love and deeply respect Leona, because of the caring and honest person she is, the deep knowledge and skills she brings at the table in our collaboration. Definitely one of the 250 ethical leaders of our Island, that continuously works at connecting dots and creating value for the whole of the society. Share 2uplift is totaly aligned with her short and long term goals.


The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.

As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.Visit the website for more information. 

Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 18th of October
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 18th of October, at Biblioteka Nashonal di Korsou.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books “Why Nations fail, the origins of power, prosperity and poverty”, by Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson (presented by Dr. Miguel Goede) and “The power of eight, Harnessing the Miraculous Energies of a small group to heal others, your life and the world”, by Lynn McTaggart (presented by Ivan Kuster). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented in past MYM-sessions, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 18th of October.




Personal coaching tips

In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some Uplifting video links related to the book we will present on the 18th of October, “The power of 8”, by Lynn Mctaggart. Every day we will upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

Lynne McTaggart - The Power of Eight - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FYGRztyR24

Lynne McTaggart - How to do intention: Useful Tips - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=kKJMZKZNiJc&feature=youtu.be

Lynne McTaggart- Highlights of The Middle East Peace Intention Experiment - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Abvdw1NLo8&feature=youtu.be

Lynne McTaggart: How to conduct a Power of Eight group - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTORJd3s3Ws&feature=youtu.be

Lynne McTaggart and Dr Dacher Keltner discuss the vagus nerve - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-1HhWRcIyQ&feature=youtu.be

Lynne McTaggart and Wes Chapman: How a Power of Eight group session transformed his life - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=33QduyIeb8w How he overcame his depression?

Influencer Arthur Con, Tomorrows workshop and this week tips

Posted on September 24, 2018 at 4:00 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (24th of September till the 1st of October) we will have an interview with Influencer Arthur Con; we will invite you to our upcoming workshop at the Chit Chat Cafe at Mensing’s Caminada on Tuesday, the 25th of June and we will share some valuable personal motivational video-links with you. Everyday we will upload one video on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

It’s all about faith, courage and perseverance, Influencer Arthur Con

Arthur, is a father of four now grown up children and live with a significant other that now works in Sint Martin. He is born in Curaçao, have 2 sisters and graduated as a civil engineer at the TU Delft. Before he became director of FKP in the year 2005, he has worked several jobs not always in Curaçao.

During his years in Delft-Holland he was an amateur boxing champion and now he practices golf, loves playing domino, but also love fishing especially of the coast of Curaçao during midnight and early morning hours in the pitch dark (not alone but with one companion), close to where the different tankers anchor in front of the south coast of Curaçao.

Arthur why do you fish at that hour of the night?
“Because the light of the tankers in the dark, attracts bigger fishes which makes it easier to catch them”.

Is this a character trait for you as a person also?
“Yes, managing my fear well, is a typical character trait of me, meaning I don’t mind taking risks to reach my goals.”

Where did it come from?
“As a child I used to go fishing with my uncles. My father was also a boxer btw and a very independent and determined person, whom always thought of himself that he could solve everything.”

We have come to know you also as a very innovative. Like exploring new construction techniques, challenging limiting beliefs among some of your peers regarding what is possible for example Wech.i You never accepted that FKP should give up on Wechi and you are eager to learn new things as a manager and leader with a large circle of influence, where did that come from?
“I always have been a very curious person. I loved exploring new things. I belief that all of us should have a happy life.
For example: I am, in my sparetime, also exploring ways and means to develop the local fishery sector. I explore ways we can make better use of alternative energy on the island, because I firmly belief in the opportunities that these present for Curaçao”.

“I have a passion for alternative energy and it is based on my personal vision that Curaçao should become more independent energy wise, simply by making better use of our own natural resources. We have a lot of sun, sea and wind. We are not using electric cars yet. I am even considering ways and means to collect the rain that falls on our island. We have the same amount of rain that falls in Holland over a year here in Curaçao and most of it just goes back to the sea. Why not catch this and store it in underground water reservoirs, that we could use when their is not so much rain falling for irrigation purposes of our flora, but also our fauna. I am also brainstorming on ways and means to use our waste to genearte energy, and therefore contributing to a sustanable comunity in different areas of our life.”

What were the challenges that you have encountered when you started working as the CEO of FKP in 2005 and how did you overcome them?
“First and most important was the development of Wechi. Within FKP, they had given up on Wechi when I became a CEO and now due to my perserverance, we have finally reached a point where we can start to develop Wechi after we have won all the legal battles in court. We succeeded with Wechi, because of our vision, our perserverance to “never give up” and focus.

Secondly, the development of alternative ways to build houses that are durable and more affordable. We now have developed a concrete pouring system (gietbouw sisteem) and formwork that is pretty innovative. One of the most important actions we took with regards to the way we are building houses was, we look around in our region in other countries to find out what worked. We discovered that in certain countries they use formworks and with our FKP technical team we had instituted, we made some further adjustments that would fit much better in the local specific environment in Curaçao. Based on making continued comparisons we belief we now have developed a new system, that is capable of building durable and affordable houses. And of course we will share our knowledge with other islands if asked.


Thirdly, my relationship with different stakeholders like the FKP union; FKP’s supervisory board and politicians has been a big challenge and at times delicate.

We were able to overcome the obstacles we confronted, when dealing with the different stakeholders because of our communication skills and ability to build bridges with these stakeholders. Stakeholders used to have perceptions of who I am that were not always in accordance with reality and becoming aware of this and based on my excellent communications skills, my integrity and honesty, in the end made me overcome these challenges. I also belief that as a person you need to be very well connected in networks and be able to easily get along with different people and stakeholders, it is an important competency, a people’s skills, that one needs to, to be succesful in an organization like FKP. But you also need to be humble and that makes it possible to be able to communicate with all layers in the society and in FKP from the trainee to the prime minister of the country.”

What are your strengths?
“I am very good at staying focused and perservere. You know, when I was an amateur boxer during the time I was studying in Holland, I have learned to, once I put my mind on something and I belief in it, to go all the way. But, I was also very good in listening and open to innovation.

To be a boxer you need to not only have a firm belief in self, a self confidence that was fueled also by my training regime, so that it became easier to deal with whatever challenges you meet on your way. My mother alsways told me, that “if you want to achieve something, you have to work for it, be it at school or in boxing or career wise and she always told me to visualize and imagine that you have already achieved what you have visualize. In my way of seeing life, I don’t belief that there are problems, I see them as challenges to overcome. I am pretty good in handling stress, I am very forgiving and I am able to let go easily of things that I can’t influence. I don’t want to carry a full back-pack.”



How would you describe your leadership style, people centered or result oriented?
“I consider myself a people centered leader and I am continously trying to improve my skills in this regard.”

What is your BIG WHY or driving motivation to be whom you are right now?
“I have an innate passion for construction that I had since I was a child. My grandfather was a contractor and I use to give him a helping hand at times. I was fascinated by the house my father had build himself in Santa Rosa, were I grew up.” 

Is there anything else you want to share?
“In my spiritual journey I have learned, by following Fengshui courses, to appreciate peacefulness of mind. Life is all about happiness, tranquility and no worries. When I was a student in Holland, I studied the Bible, but I was challenged by certain questions I had, that the Bible didn’t answer. After following Fengshui courses the answers were given. When you ask questions, you always get your answers. I now have a better understanding of Jesus Christ and I am totally at peace now.”

What are your future plans? Can you share with us what are your business goals for short and long term?
Short term Business goals:

1. “We need to reached a formal management-agreement with the government. This contract deals with the relationship between government and FKP. This has been pending for long and I am optimistic that this will be solved soon;

2. I want to further improve the leadership of FKP starting with myself and the other managers in FKP. I firmly belief that our employees need to have job satisfaction. I am always reflecting, and looking in the mirror to see, how I am doing and what can we improve as management team so that all of us can attend with our employees in a better way. It is important to have a coach to trigger this self reflectiveness.”

Longterm business goals (10 years from now):

“We want to contribute to improve the quality of life of our community with high quality and affordable housing projects, which will alleviate their housing needs. We want to substantially improve the communication with our (potential) clients, so to best inform them and based on our knowledge of their personal needs, help satisfy these needs.
Having said that I am not glued to this chair at FKP, you may never know that tomorrow I might be involved in another area where I can serve our community, but that will definitely will not by becoming a politician. For now my focus with all my physical, mental and spiritual powers, I want to focus on how to develop Wechi especially and offer to our community 4000 new housing units to alleviate the scarcity in affordable housing.”


What would you want your Loved Ones, family, friends at other say about you let’s say 10 to 15 years years from now?
“He has taught me to be happy, positive and look at life from the bright side. There are no problems only challenges and opportunities.”

What were 5 of the most Influential books that changed your life?

1. The Bible;
2. 'Animal farm', by George Orwel
3. 'From third world to first world', by Lee Kuan Yew
4. 'Old man and the sea', by Ernst Hemmingway
5. 'Emotional intelligence 2.0', Travis Bradberry and Jean Graves. Btw I would also like to add Simon Sinek TEDx presentation titled 'Start with Why?'. This has also had a big impact on my thinking.

How, in one word or sentence would people that know you, best describe you?
 “Positive and dedicated”, but also “Faith, Courage and perserverance”.

As the core group of Share2Uplift we consider Arthur one of the 250 ethical leaders of our islands, that continously works at creating value for the whole of the society, by connecting dots and aligning efforts. 


The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.

As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.
As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information. 

Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada on TUESDAY the 25th of September

We would also like to invite you for tomorrows workshop:

“Glass half full, become the better version of you by making relative changes in your approach towards life.
See your life in pure objective terms.
Change your perspective.”


Date: Tuesday the 25th of September

Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada.

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Personal coaching tips
In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some Uplifting video links. Every day we will upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


Best Short Motivational Speech Video - 24 HOURS - 1-Minute Motivation #2 - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLeJJPxua3E&vl=en

One of the BEST Motivational Videos I've ever seen! - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzBCI13rJmA


It's Up To You - Motivational Video - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=YMz2_S2y9WE

 

THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE | an inspirational journey | short motivational video - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=QROON4PDt5A


SUCCESS comes with ATTITUDE - "Motivational Video" - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?vLbZTyDyssg


Inspirational Video: 2 minutes short motivational video to boost your Energy - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jlzlmv5hSU


Influencer Victor Monk, This week Book Session, Chit Chat workshop and coaching tips

Posted on September 16, 2018 at 5:40 PM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (17th - 23rd of September) we will present an interview with Influencer Victor Monk; We will invite you to the upcoming Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September at the Biblioteka Nashonal di Korsou; We will invite for our next upcoming Chit Chat workshop titled "The Glass half full' on Tuesday the 25th of September and we will end this blog sharing some Uplifting personal video-links. Every day we will upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


About being “Victorioso” and staying at peace, no matter what.

Victor Monk, could you tell us something about your self and your family?
“I am a father of two sons now grown up children and I am very happily married for over 29 years. I consider it a great win that my children have grown up well, both now studying in Holland and my family is very united. I was born in Colombia, my mother is still alive and I care for her, a lot. I visit her regularly. I have one other brother and one sister and I came to live in Curaçao when I was 10 years old. I am a family man and the Bible inspires me a lot in everything I do and I love soccer, swimming, going to the gym and I have always loved sports, especially soccer.


I come from a family, whom was living on welfare and I always believed that if I study and work hard enough with dedication, I can come very far career wise. I am now as we speak, the director of the Social Development at Ministry of SOAW of the government of Curaçao that offers social welfare for those most in need. So I belief that if I can achieved this, anyone can, if they put in the work.


My job gives me this unique authority to be helpfull for people whom are in a disadvantage position. 

I am always looking for ways and means how to further improve the lives of those whom are less fortunate in this world. This also explains why, I try to do acts of kindness on a personal basis every single day, that makes me feel good and I consider it a priviledge to be able to do this."

In your life you have to dealt with lots of challenges. Could you tell us about some of them and tell us how you overcame them?
When we came to Curaçao we didn’t know any one. We only could speak spanish and I had to start school at the 5th grade, where dutch and papiamento were the only languages that were spoken. And I was teased by other kids when I tried to speak dutch or papiamento, but fortunately not all where like that, some really tried to help me. I had this wonderful teacher Mrs. Hato whom was very interested in me and whom took interest in my learning, so she taught me in after school hours, the languages. I always was very good at arithmetic and I focused on my strengths and from there on, I gained an increased self esteem to try other subject matters.”

“I have always been very highly motivated to do well and did well at school and this while going to the challenges of getting accustomed to a new culture and country (Meaning Curaçao and later Holland). And after finishing M.I.L., I got my master’s degree at the University of Tilburg, Holland as an social economist. In Holland my biggest challenges were to get along with other Dutch students and I experienced less willingness by most of these Dutch students to be helpful towards students from other countries than Holland itself. In my experience, I consider the people in Curaçao were much more helpful and more human in that sense.

I decided to come back to work and live in Curaçao and that was a deliberate choice, because I wanted to give something back to our island. I started my career at Afdeling Financien Eilandgebied Curaçao in the year 1992, but soon they approached me to join the Bureau Ziektekosten Verzekering as a staff member, where in the year 1997 I became the Finance Director and in 2005 I became the Director.


In the beginning of my career my biggest challenges were how to help those most in need where there was always a lack of sufficient money.
I experienced that one specific group, those with a handicap in the society, had extra problems. We decided to form a group and we ultimately worked on introducing the “ley di labizjan” or AVBZ. This made it possible to improve the physical and mental care of handicapped people in a much better way. My idea was then to come with a general medical insurance system (AZV) for all, on the island. At this moment, we do have a basic health insurance system, but that isn’t the same as what I dreamed about, but we this a quite reasonable health insurance system we now have in place and now we are working on a general pension system. When you work in government, I have over the years, become aware of red tape and politics. That is why you should be patient, persevere and focus more on the process and less on the results.”

“After some years at BZV, I returned back into goverment after some bumps with politics, but I came back in government stronger than ever. I was asked to become a Secretaris Generaal (SG) of BPD, but I prefered to be a director of Social Development at the Ministery of SOAW. As a director I am more directly involved with projects, that can influenced those whom really need help. As a SG, you are more of a coordinator. You have a slightly better salary, but you are not directly involve with the people in need. I belief that you must love what you do and always be willing to help people that need it the most."

In the 25 years that I have worked, I have been confronted with lots of challenges and there are lots of people trying to pull you down in the mud, but when you have a clean consciousness and you do what you do from the heart, you will always come of out of these challenges victorious. In my career I have been put aside (in dutch: on “non-actief” twice. I lost my job as the director of BZV, because I kept my ground as a principle centered person. But with the help of Jehova GOD and my family standing right behind me, I came out of this stronger than ever."

How did you overcome challenges up to now, rebounding from whatever challenges you confront?
"My trust in GOD all Migthy, my family and my confidence and trust that what I am doing is for the benefit and good of all."

Furthermore, in the past I was very focused on the results and when I didn’t get the results, this really disappointed me. Now I focus more on the process, work hard to achieve my goals, but then I am aware of reality factors and I am enjoying more, the journey."


What are your strengths?
"1. I am a person that really cares for people;
2. I love being in management;
3. I am very creative and innovative and I love thinking out of the box;
4. I am very result oriented and
5. I am a very positive person."


How would you describe your leadership style, people centered or result oriented?

"I use to be very result-oriented in the beginning of my career, but as years had gone by, I transformed and now I am a people centered manager and leader. This is why I put lots of focus and attention on coachingprograms for the employees that I am responsible for at the Ministery of SOAW."

What is your BIG WHY or driving motivation to be whom you are right now? Where does that come from?
"I want to prove to myself, that I can reach my goals not at the expense of others and still be able to help those the most in need of this help."

We have come to know you as a person that is very result oriented and also well connected in networks and can easily get along with different people and stakeholders, is that a comptency – we would call it people’s skills – that one needs to be succesful in life?
"If you really care for other people and you do your work with love you will undoubtly achieve what you set your mind on.
When you focused too much on the results though, you can get stress out, which is something that had happened to me. This was a big lesson for me and I have changed my ways and now I am enjoying life more and to the fullest."

We have come to know you also as a very innovative and eager to learn new things as a manager and leader with a large circle of influence, where did that come from? Is it something that can be learned?
"I belief if all of us have this potential in us, it is up to us to achieve this potential. I have learned so much from those leaders I have worked with. I learned from their positives and tried to improve my self step by step."

What are your future plans, short term and long term? What are your biggest challenges that you foresee to reach your future goals?
 "In the short term on a personal level I want to further grow spiritually, I want to improve my family ties and improve my Inner Mental Peace.

At work I want to enable the restoration/rehabilitation of four “Sentro di Bario”and I want to enable an improved work climate at work.

Long term is I want to become even stronger spiritually and mentally. I want to have happy family relations. I want to enable the construction of an Elderly Care center with optimal care for our people and I want to enable a general pension system for all workers in Curaçao."

We have come to learn from you that you really want to use all of your abilities to influence and solve problems that are bigger than those where you work now. Where did that come from?
"I have thought myself to look at things as though they are challenges.

I read a lot and my mother always was looking for solutions for everything without complaining and my wife always stimulates me to, take steps slowly but surely and prove to myself ultimately that it is possible. My wife was always there when I most needed this, I love her dearly. She has been very supportive to help me to be where I am now. I trust in GOD that our love will last till the end of our lives."

What were some of the most Influential books that changed your life?
The most important one was the 'Bible' and 'To be happy in Alaska', by Rafael Satandreu.


How, in one word or sentence would people that know you, best describe you?
"Victorioso". 

Do you want to share anything else that might be relevant for those reading this blog?
"The coaching programma I am following via Uplifting BV is making me, every single day more and more aware of all the beautiful and positive things that surrounds us.
As the core group of share2uplift we consider Victor indeed “Victorious” a winner (in papiamento = “Victorioso” and one of the 250 ethical leaders of our islands, that continously works at creating value for the whole of the society, by connecting dots and aligning efforts."

The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.
As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.
As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.

Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 20th of September, at Biblioteka Nashonal.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books Breaking rank, How to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices, by Steven Countinho (presented by Ivan Kuster) and Enlightenment Now, the case for reason, humanism and progress, Steven Pink (presented by Michiel van de Veur). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented in past MYM-sessions, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 20th of September.

Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada on TUESDAY the 25th of September
We would also like to invite you to our next workshop:
'Glass half full, become the better version of you by making relative changes in your approach towards life. See your life in pure objective terms. Change your perspective.'

Date: Tuesday the 25th of September

Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada. Contact for more info!

Personal coaching tips
In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some Uplifting video links. Every day we will upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY - HAPPIER BY TAL BEN-SHAHAR, PhD - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=74Wei0-vAZs

Martin Seligman on Positive Psychology - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=faT8jw17RHE

LEARNED OPTIMISM BY MARTIN SELIGMAN | ANIMATED BOOK REVIEW - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=2hHNq45rEnU

What is Flow Theory? What does this mean for our students? - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUsOCR1KKms

Appreciative Inquiry - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=QzW22wwh1J4

This Was Holding Me Back From Success | Lewis Howes Motivation - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7NaKxNoY1Y


Interview with influencer Steven Coutinho, upcoming events and this week tips

Posted on September 10, 2018 at 4:00 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s (10th – 16th of September) blog we will present an interview with Steven Coutinho, author of the book: 'Breaking Rank, how to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices'. We will invite you to our next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September at the Biblioteka Nashonal Korsou, where one of the two books being presented will be 'Breaking Rank'. We will invite you to our next Chit Chat Mensing’s Caminada workshop on the 25th of September and we will end with some video links with personal coaching tips of one of our favorite and earliest virtual teachers, John Assaraf. Every day during the week we will also upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

Obsessively driven by change, Steven Countinho’s story

Steven, we have read your book 'Breaking Rank, how to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices'. Parts of this book was autobiographic and we appreciated your vulnerability as it was expressed in the book because whenever you were challenged you transformed that challenge into big steps forward. You latest step, walking away as Regional Managing Director of Royal Bank of Canada was a really BIG one. So, we got this information on whom you are as Steven Coutinho, the person behind the author.

• You are an Internationalist. You decided to live in Curacao in 2012 when you joined RBC Royal Bank;
• You are married and father of three children;
• You were born in Holland from Surinam parents and lived quite some years in Australia when growing up;
• You have studied in Groningen and you have lived in 34 different places working either as a consultant or bank executive;
• You hold a master’s in Medical Physics from the University of Groningen, and hold an MBA from the Wharton School;
• You have worked as the regional managing director of Royal Bank of Canada in the Caribbean;
• You are the CEO of Xpand.

Steven, are we missing something?
Steven: "It is way too much you have mentioned, maybe you should shorten it.“

Steven starts our interview, trying to stay humble. So this also typifies Steven. Well, we considered shortening his CV, but we found it too relevant and kept it like that, because of the consistency that Steven has shown over the years to have a major impact in the world. A friend of him that we talked to, told us that Steven at an early age (in his late teens and early twenties), was always talking about transforming governments and countries and he is still consistently looking for ways and means to do this.



Steven: “It has been quite a journey though, because I was always trying to find a way to explain why people behaved like they did in the countries I worked and lived in, that is: “ineffective behavioral patterns.” Until last year, after going to a 10 days Vipassana retreat here in Curaçao in July 2017. This changed my life completely.”


The friend we talked with told us he attended a birthday party of my younger brother at my home when in the same week, he finished the retreat he told me: “I am going to quit my job as executive of RBC. I am going to dedicate the rest of my life empowering postcolonial mindsets.”

We asked Steven if he would describe himself in one word or one sentence what would that sentence be?
Steven answered: “Obsessively driven by change”. I am not an emotional person, certainly not across the board because I understand from an evolutionary perspective where emotions come from. So, I am less emotional than some people would like to see me to be – it often gets me into trouble. But I am emotional in some ways, depending on the situation, for example if it is something regarding the safety of my children, my primitive mind will be on alert."

How important is your family for you?
“My biggest goal is to enable especially my children to grow up with a certain consciousness of whom they are and what they can achieve. And I sincerely wish this was possible for all children now growing up in the world. I don’t want them to grow up in a straight jacket, but want them to make their own choices, but then again this is also a challenge: if one of my children for example would always be given the freedom to decide on what they want to do and they continuously would decide to watch TV, I would consider it necessary to intervene in this challenging dilemma. So, there is no clear cut yes or no in all circumstances.”

What would you want your Loved Ones, family, friends at other say about you let’s say 10 to 15 years years from now?

“That I am passionate and always willing to help the world to be a better place, always willing to enable people to get a certain awareness that would benefit them. That I was also very much aware that in my journey, I made mistakes. Mistakes that became lessons learned to make them part of a more hightened awareness”.

What are your future plans?
Steven: “I stopped at RBC-bank at the end of May and have since met lots of people that want to collaborate with my company Xpand. That is nice to know and lots of them are like minded people with their own unique approach and perspective. I am now focusing on my company and marketing my book Breaking Rank especially via social media. But, as we speak in September 2018, I am also learning to become an entrepreneur and I am going through the usual challenges that this brings with it. But my mindset is still to stay my course that I have set for myself. That goal is to get the message out in the world that: “It is not about color, not about being black, brown or whatever color of your skin. This all is based on how we are programmed and this explains our ineffective behavioral patterns. As a writer, I have come to learn from my father, whom was also a writer that: “If you want to have an impact in the world you need write books.
So, I am following his advice and by now have three other books in the pipeline with the following titles:
- The illusion of reality;
- Why do we women wear lipstick;
- The non-sense of insecurity.
This is what I consider my purpose in life. My father is now 88 years old and he has been an author, but also an Economics Professor at Erasmus University and the Universities of Suriname, Costa Rica and Barbados. This was an important lesson he taught me.”

Check also this TEDx presentation of Steven Coutinho. Stories, Choices and Change | Steven Coutinho | TEDxCuracao - YouTube

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We consider you a big Influencer and at the launching of your book at Mensing’s Caminada in June/July 2018 you mentioned that you will start an after school education initiative, based on Ricardo Sempler’s approach and his Lumiar’s initiative. This after school initiative would offer a different curriculum than the usual one. How is that developing up to now?
Steven: “I am experiencing slow progress up to now, because everyone is head down and focused on their own thing. It’s a phenomenon that is not only local by the way, it’s also international. Everybody is so busy with their own mind. What is more: education is a very sensitive topic. Look for example in Curacao: our system – that is very traditional and in some cases obedience oriented - goes back hundreds of years. Every change goes slowly, but my mindset is to be patient, persistent and I am convinced that in the end we will be successful”.

What is your BIG WHY or driving motivation to be whom you are right now? Where does that come from?

“I can’t explain it, maybe it’s Karma, but I feel my goal is to help others liberate their minds from the stories that have been wrapped around their minds. I can’t explain it other than that. When I was in Australia, I saw aboriginals sniffing gas at gas stations and I couldn’t explain their behaviors. When traveling across the world I saw other marginalized people showing behaviors and making choices that kept them poor. I believe I can now explain this. That’s why I wrote Breaking Rank.”

In “Breaking rank” Steven sums up 6 ineffective behaviors patterns, that he has identified in all post colonized countries.
Pattern 1: Better safe than sorry (Low risk tolerance);
Pattern 2: It’s not my decision to make (Helplessness, deference & victimization);
Pattern 3: Power benefits the few at the cost of the many (Low altruism);
Pattern 4: I’m focusing on Me, Myself & I (Demotivation & disengagement);
Pattern 5: Someone’s always out to get me (Low trust);
Pattern 6: Live for today, mañana may never come (short term focus).


In his book Steven mentions an interesting fact and that is: 84 % of the world has been colonized by European countries, only parts of South East Asia and Thailand were never colonized and a lot of those countries that were colonized still show certain choice patterns even in their postcolonial phase.

Steven explains: “For example, in many postcolonial societies bureaucracy was fear based and structured to keep control of society. In many countries today this influence can still be seen: bureaucracies – and often other organizations - are still very punitive, fear based, control oriented instead of facilitating, stimulating and opportunity seeking. People who work in such environments are often those who have sought job safety – exactly the type of people that will not see opportunities, but rather threat. They go ‘by the book’ and this then stifles innovation. Just look at how government handled the winery project at Hato and the free-range eggs (scharrel eieren) project. Those who want to bring change start to look at the actions of government, give up on their efforts and walk away.” Take a different way of looking at the world for example in the US: government is less heavy handed, red tape is nowhere to be found, private initiative is encouraged. The mindset is ‘yes we can’ instead of ‘no we can’t’. When I lived there it became obvious that rules were seen as guidelines, and not some hard and fast path that could not be deviated from. They ask: how can we? instead of you must walk a certain path or walk no path at all. Let me be clear though: this mindset has nothing to do with race or culture. It is one that comes from fear. A fear that has been deposited into our minds by a history whose effects we have never fully appreciated. A history that has shaped our minds to accept our world and ourselves as being the way things are. Breaking Rank breaks those myths and shows who we are NOT.“


What can be done to empower these post colonial mindsets?

“You know, when I started meditating I got these epiphanies. Either when I am in meditation, in those moments when I am in stillness or just after having finished my meditations. People also would just come by and walk into my office, triggering epiphanies. It is like being in the Zone and I know that when I don’t meditate the “fearful me part” gets the upper hand again. It is like waves that go up and down depending on my meditation exercises and I consider it important that one stays in a rhythm and through meditation enables being in the Zone.”

Quote from his book: Mindfulness techniques can neurologically change people’s perceptions of their control, how to regulate their emotions and how it can allow them to awaken from the stories wrapped around in their minds.

"Because not everyone will become a meditator, I developed a Breaking Rank framework. First it enables you to understand WHO you are and what your place is in the world; next it helps you to give people choice and broaden their perception as to WHAT they can do; finally it supports you to break down your world into pieces, see the relationships between the pieces and rearrange them to build a new world. That is when people understand HOW to adapt to the world.”

For more information we highly recommend buying the book available at Mensing’s Caminada, you can attend the coming presentation of Steven on the 19th of September from 7 pm titled 'Break Rank, tired of playing the social games' at Mensing’s Caminada and you can attend our next Master Your Mind Platform session on the 20th of September, where we will expand more on the book itself and the Breaking Rank framework.

On what projects do you think you need to collaborate in Curaçao to get value created and empower postcolonial minds?
“In Curaçao I belief the Whole Island Leadership Expedition (W.I.L.) is the most unique platform to bring along the desired changes.”
W.I.L. is a platform in its incubator phase where different Influencers on the Island are connecting dots and aligning efforts, collaboratively creating value for the whole of the society, aimed at bringing about transformational changes in Curaçao. More of this will be published soon. Share2Uplift is one of the participants in this platform.

What are the 5 books that have influenced you the most?

1. Black skin, white masks, by Frantz Fanon
2. The alchemist, by Paulo Coelho;
3. Pedagogy of the oppressed, by Paulo Frere
4. The Lucifer effect, by Philip Zimbardo
5. The wisdom of insecurity, by Alan Watts.


To finalize this interview based on the six ineffective behavioral patterns you mentioned in your book, where would you rank yourself if you would use this as a self-assessment tool on a scale from 1 to 10?
Risk avoidance or your tendency to seek risks: 8
Responsibility: 9
Altruism: 6
Motivation: 9
Trust: 8
Short term thinking: 7

To sum up: We were pleasantly surprised by the depth and familiarity of the content of Breaking Rank based on our own experiences in Curaçao, which resonated a lot with us. Steven has observed similar patterns not only in other Caribbean Islands but elsewhere in countries where he has worked and lived with a colonial history. That was one of our biggest take aways. We consider Steven to be one of the 250 ethical leaders on the island that is connecting and aligning efforts to collaboratively create value for the whole of the society. For those who read this blog, the book 'Breaking Rank' is a MUST read, to get a deeper understanding of certain disfunctional behavioral patterns that are so pervasive on our island and also some recommended paths, to rid ourselves from them.



The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.
As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.
As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.

Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 20th of September, at Biblioteka Nashonal.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books Breaking rank, How to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices, by Steven Countinho (presented by Ivan Kuster) and Enlightenment Now, the case for reason, humanism and progress, Steven Pink (presented by Michiel van de Veur). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented in past MYM-sessions, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 20th of September.




Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada on Tuesday the 25th of September
We would also like to invite you to our next workshop:


'Glass half full, become the better version of you by making relative changes in your approach towards life. See your life in pure objective terms.
Change your perspective
.'


Date: Tuesday the 25th of September


Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada.

Contact for more info!


Personal coaching tips
In this week’s personal coaching tips, we will share some video links of one our favorite and earliest virtual teachers, John Assaraf. Every single day we will upload one of these video-links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

Allie & You: The Secret's John Assaraf Talks About Overcoming Mental and Emotional Road Blocks - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wU_zqlLyEOU

Are You INTERESTED Or Are You COMMITTED? - John Assaraf - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nrl0YLC-KtM&vl=vi

How To Break Through Your Financial Ceiling — For Good | John Assaraf - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-D_RM5PLmo

Why Aren't You REALLY Taking Action Toward Your Goals? - YouTube
/www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkqUjSf0kKA

INNERCISE | Fix Your Focus, Release Your Fears - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=C67ES-Z5RQk

Why 2% Succeed and 98% Don't - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYJx8Jix0e4

Mindful and disciplined, Master Your Mind Book Session and this week tips

Posted on September 3, 2018 at 4:00 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (10th of September – 16th of September) we will expand on the importance of becoming more mindful and disciplined, if we want to start breaking bad habits and create new more productive ones; we will invite you for our next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September and we will share some personal tips on how to become a creator of our future or stay victim of our automatic self. Every day we will upload a video link also on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.



The importance of mastering your mind
A perspective based on the book Rewire, Change Your Brian, by Richard O’Connor

We are living in a period of unprecedented progress in the behavioral and social sciences. The progress has been primarily fueled by recent technological advances in neuroscience, specifically in brain imaging techniques such as fMRI, and by recent field-wide mandates in psychology for evidence based practices. One of the major trends in psychology and psychotherapy over the past decade has been the incorporation of cognitive and emotional training exercises such as mindfulness and meta (loving kindness and compassion) meditation. The afore mentioned imaging techniques have enabled investigators to observe the neurological changes that occur in ordinary people as well as experts, as they "exercise" their brains via meditation practices.

The big news is that we can literally change our brains by giving them a workout, and these "neuro-plastic" changes engender enhanced psychological and behavioral flexibility. The news is not so earth shaking if you think about it like this. The psychological skills that get worked, get strengthened. Just like lifting weights. If you practice present moment awareness and equanimity, than you become more able to maintain present moment awareness and equanimity in more challenging situations. The same goes for self/other compassion. Practice it and it gets stronger. The idea is that by exercising our brains, we can become freer to make decisions that are more inline with our values and long term interests rather than based on our short term impulsive cravings and aversions.

If you're a drug addict or if you're depressed than you need to go against the grain of your cravings and aversions in order to recover. Mindfulness and compassion meditation turn out to be of great therapeutic benefit for these serious clinical issues.

In the book Rewire, by Richard O’conner shares 3 great lessons. Check this link: Rewire Summary - Four Minute Books fourminutebooks.com/rewire-summary/ )
1. You have two selves that influence your actions – a conscious one and an automatic one;
2. Repressing your emotions can cause you to become self-destructive;
3. You can start breaking your bad habits by faking it and training mindfulness.

Do have a bad habit you want to kick? Here is what to do!
Lesson 1: You have two selves that influence your actions – a conscious one and an automatic one.

Which one is it going to be after work – gym or TV?
The moment I ask you that question you know which answer is the right one.
Yet, we’ve all faced this or similar decision countless times, but still ended up on the couch with a bag of chips.

Why?
Dr. O’Connor says it’s because we have two selves, a conscious one and an automatic one.The conscious self relies a lot on rational arguments, it’s when you reason yourself into doing things, for example going to the library early to get a good spot, because it’ll be crowded later on.

The automatic self is in charge when you eat your entire popcorn before the movie starts. Your conscious self isn’t there to think about the consequences and only when it reactivates again later do you regret your actions. We depend on automatic self for over 95 % - 99 % getting through the day. Whenever you perform a bad habit, your automatic self is running the show, after all you’d never choose to do a bad habit consciously. What to do about this?

The challenge basically that you need to overcome is:
1. The automatic self can't repair itself, because it can't really see where the trouble lies.
2. The conscious self has trouble seeing it because of defenses created to keep the trouble out of our awareness,
3. Even if we see it we lack the knowledge to change it.

We can develop greater control over our most self destructive patterns and feel like the conscious part of us is in charge of our lives.

There are two ways then, to break bad habits:
1. Strengthening your conscious self, so it becomes the dominant force.
2. Training your automatic self to just stop slipping up.

Both work, but in the long run, training your automatic self is a lot less effort. Via mindfulness it can help us to see the automatic self at work and detach our self of its control and train the brain to be calm and objective, because once the neural pathways have been established, they work on autopilot. But you can also learn to monitor your thoughts, feelings and behavior via a daily log and this will expand awareness and increase control. Just take a few minutes and give it your attention. See what patterns begin to emerge, look for the connections between your mood and feeling changes, external events and internal processes. Both external and internal can serve as triggers.

Lesson 2: Repressing your emotions can cause you to become self-destructive.
Have you ever wished to yell at someone at the top of your lungs, because they really pissed you off?

Chances are more often than not, when you wanted to, you didn’t.

Dr. O’Connor says you should have.
Emotions are chemical reactions in your body. They build up over time and eventually break, which is when we have to let them out.
Like water in an overflowing bathtub, they’ll find a way.

You not yelling when someone harasses you in the morning might lead you to eat a whole pie by yourself in the afternoon, just because you bottled up those feelings.
Emotions are never right or wrong, it’s not for you to judge, they’re feelings and therefore not even meant to be based on reason and common sense.
When you’re trying to rationally pick your feelings, you’ll create a communication gap between your conscious and your automatic self.
Your automatic self really tells you to yell at your co-worker for deleting all that data, but your rational you steps in and says you shouldn’t cause a scene in the office.
Eventually, this conflicting advice might lead you to engage in self-destructive behavior, like drinking way too much coffee, so listen to your gut.

Lesson 3: You can start breaking your bad habits by faking it and training mindfulness.
Rewiring your brain is never easy, but it’s easy to get started. Alcoholics Anonymous use the saying “Fake it till you make it” a lot, and it helps a lot of recovering addicts get started.
It focuses on being dedicated to getting better, and giving it your best, even when you end up caving and having a drink after a week or two.If you constantly beat yourself up every time you have another drink, you’ll keep sabotaging yourself, because you’re repressing those emotions, remember?

Instead, focus on continuing your efforts and “fake it” until you eventually make not drinking a habit – it’ll get easier to control yourself over time.


Just by sitting down for 30 minutes every day and focusing and re-focusing your attention on your breath, you can substantially increase your awareness for when you’re about to do a bad habit.
Don’t worry about being perfect, it’s normal to have other thoughts as you meditate. Gently push them aside and re-focus your attention.
That’s what meditation is all about, but, you know, fake it till you make it.

As the core group of Share2Uplift we would like to recommend this best practice to all whom want to gain mastery of more productive behaviors while breaking down bad habits.

The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.
As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.

As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.

Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September
We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 20th of September, at Biblioteka Nashonal.
From: 7 - 8.30 pm
Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books Breaking rank, How to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices, by Steven Countinho (presented by Ivan Kuster) and Enlightenment Now, the case for reason, humanism and progress, Steven Pink (presented by Michiel van de Veur). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented on Chit Chat Workshop, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 20th of September.




Personal coaching tips

This week we will share with you some personal tips as video links on how to be a creator of your own reality instead of being a victim of your automatic self. Every day we will upload a video link also on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

Mentally Plan Your Day to Reinvent Your Reality; Dr. Joe Dispenza, Present Mom
www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGfQrSSjZbk

You Can Change - Dr. Joe Dispenza - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8Mo4S-AtUo

Dr Joe Dispenza: How to Control Your Emotions - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwizhm-iovQ

Evolve Your Brain 101 with Joe Dispenza, DC - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tMVeMFYgg1c


HOW DR JOE DISPENZA'S DAUGHTER MANIFESTED AN UNLIMITED SHOPPING SPREE! - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6pqcS2Nli0


Joe Dispenza: The Balance Between Intention and Surrender [Web Excerpt] 2018 - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9mZgy6Hy-k


Mistica Fraay of SEHOS; september edition of Master Your Mind-platform session and this week tips

Posted on August 26, 2018 at 7:50 PM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (27th of August till the 3rd of September) we will expand on Mistica Fraay, an Influencer in SEHOS; we will invite you for our next Master Your Mind-platform session and we will share with you some personal tips as video links on how to be a creator of your own reality instead of being a victim of your automatic self. Every day we will upload a video link also on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


An Influencer at work in SEHOS

We, from Share2Uplift consider Mistica an Influencer and that is why we approached her for this week’s blog.
What is an Influencer? An Influencer is an individual who has above-average impact in their respective circles of Influence.

We asked Mistica to explain to us, whom she is as family woman and as a professional.

Mistica: “I am a 59 year old mother of two sons. I have decided to dedicate all my quality time to these two sons as a single mother after my divorce and I am very proud of whom my sons have become. This is my personal wealth and I love it like it is. I came out of a family of 10 brothers and sisters, with strong value based roots, like being respectful and caring of other people independent of their social background, but also being honest and humble were highly valued.

I am Manager Care of SEHOS and I love my work.You know early on, when I was a child, I was afraid of becoming a nurse, I couldn’t imagine that I would become one. But then again, something kept pulling me to this profession. I always loved helping people, it didn’t matter how. If something happens and I can help a person, I would be the first to help. So after overcoming my fear, I decided to go into nursery anyway and started working as a nurse at the basic level for three years. I was eager to learn and grow, getting to know the human body in all its different aspects. If you could describe my learning curve, I developed and grew for knowing the human body from within and then got to know the surrounding technology available for the patients and worked at the Intensive Care department for 7 years. But then I started to loose my foothing and touch with people. You know you loose humanity in a sense when you are very focused on technology. I missed that humanity and I couldn’t find myself anymore in a technology driven environment. So I developed more interest in policy and management, driven by my desire and passion to do things better for our patients. So my first managerial position was in the children department. In those 4 years, I learned to know people much better.

One of the important lessons I learned is, that if a new head of department is recruited and appointed and comes from the group that this new department head has to manage, it can be a big challenge. So I figured out “a strategy for success” to win over the support of all the employees of that department. I deliberatedly focused on working bottom up. Gaining the respect and confidence from the lower echelons first.

Secondly I always involved people in important decisions, I asked for their input and this gave me confidence and confirmed that I was on the right track. I learned a lot from “Intervisie” among colleagues and by putting yourself in a vulnerable position, making it possible that anybody from the workfloor could give me as the department head constructive feedback - by explaning their points of view - this department became self-steering. In a sense this was a huge win for me and my applied “success strategy”, that was enabling this department to become self-steering. In another sense I became bored. I had almost nothing to do, other then staying in a coaching role. That department became a very respected department, I was often asked for advice by colleagues, my role was limited but my desire to grow didn’t stop there. It was then, that I became Manager Care. Leaping from being manager at the childrens department for a group of 60 employees to Manager Care responsible for over 450 employees consisting of 21 departments and 35 managers. That has been my challenge for the last couple of years as we are preparing to migrate to our biggest challenge in the near future and that is migrating to HNO (Hospital Nobo Otrobanda = The new hospital) to be operational.”

We have come to know you as a very people centered person and caring person, where does that come from?
“Well I can’t explain it, it might be a personality trait. People feel it when you are sincere in your intentions in your different roles either as a nurse towards a patient or the mother of my sons or a leader leading employees in SEHOS and that I am responsible for. You can learn lots of things and I have learned so much from other people, but in the end it is all about application of this knowledge. As I can’t exactly explain where it comes from, my advise is: “Be human in your approach towards other human beings and you will win people’s hearts.”

What is your BIG WHY or driving motivation to be whom you are right now?
“As I still have 5,5 years to work before my pension, I love to transfer my knowledge and skills to the upcoming generations. It doesn’t serve me to leave with all this knowledge. When you share, you can make another person eternally happy because you meant something in their lives and that also makes me happy.

To illustrate this, I come in early at work, for me that is at 7 am and the cleaning workers start even earlier at 5 am. When I am at the office, I always offer those cleaning my office coffee or tea. While making the coffee I sing a lot. Of late one of them gave me a stick with some songs so I could play it in my car as a token for his appreciation for how I treat them as colleagues. I treat them with respect, that is probably why they come to me and ask for advice and I even help them write their application letter when they want to apply for new job opportunities in SEHOS. But then at times I also experience that some people I work with betray me and I have learned to “Love them anyway”. I am sure that one day they will feel the value I offered to them. At times when things escalate you should park these challenges for a while and let it be for a while. And when at times they get stuck ....whom do they turn to for help?...They come to me and as “I love them anyway”, I help them as much as I can. My BIG WHY now? I would love to coach people. I want people to be good human beings and love other human beings, like they want to be loved.

You have started recently a movement for fitness in SEHOS? Can you expand on this and why you started this? And how is it going now after these three months?
“Yes, indeed some months ago we started the SEHOS Fit Movement aimed at making SEHOS employees be an example for our patients in terms of physical fitness. We started with a group of 22 and this group just finished their first level. This was so well received that when we opened the possibility for subscription for a new group, my secretary whom I have empowered to deal with the subscriptions, was overwhelmed with over 50 subscriptions for a new group. We don’t have enough room for all, but it gives you an idea on how well this project has been received.



Can you share with us what are your business goals for the short and long term?
“I would like all employees whom I am responsible for, to migrate to HNO preferably in their own functions or anyway in a function where they feel happy. For the very short term I would like to continue to implement all the change projects we are responsbile for successfully.”


What is your secret for this succes up to now in an environment where there is negativity and lots of people fearing the unknown, that is being outside of their “comfort zone?” 
“I now have been working for over 35 years in the hospital and you spend so much time at work, so you have to make it happen. I am not planning to come frustrated to work every single day and I would not suggest this to no one. My ability is to handle and deal with other human beings effectively. I am always open and transparant and my answers are clear, because I belief others need to know what you stand for”.

“I apply these rules:

1. Love yourself and love others anyway, whatever they do. This can be very challenging from time to time;

2. Apply Appreciative inquiry. Apreciative Inquiry is about the search for the best in people, their organizations, and the strengths-filled, opportunity-rich world around them. It is not so much a shift in the methods and models of organizational change, but it is a fundamental shift in the overall perspective taken throughout the entire change process to ‘see’ the wholeness of the human system and to “inquire” into that system’s strengths, possibilities, and successes. I have always been a people centered person so this approach serves me well;

3. I put people accountable no matter what rank they have, using crucial conversation techniques (keeping the environment safe and being respectful) when needed, because I can’t live with injustice.”


What are your biggest personal challenge that you foresee to reach your future goals?
My biggest challenge in HNO will be, “whom I want to be” and ultimately “what will I be” as dilemma. Will I be a HNO manager or a person involved in coaching, making coachees become better versions of themselves, professionally and in their private lives?”

What would you want your Loved Ones, family, friends and other say about you let’s say 10 years from now?
Mistica is a good person, a good mother and good colleague.

As the coregroup of Share2Uplift we consider Mistica Fraay definitely one of the 250 ethical leaders that we connect with and align with creating collaboratively value for the whole of the island, SEHOS specifically.



The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.

As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.

As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information


Next Master Your Mind-platform session on the 20th of September

We would like to invite you to our next session MYM-platform session on the 20th of September, at Biblioteka Nashonal.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books Breaking rank, How to lead change when yesterday’s stories limit today’s choices, by Steven Countinho (presented by Ivan Kuster) and Enlightenment Now, the case for reason, humanism and progress, Steven Pink (presented by Michiel van de Veur). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented earlier, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 20th of September.


Personal coaching tips
This week we will share with you some personal tips as video links on how to be a creator of your own reality instead of being a victim of your automatic self. Every day we will upload a video link also on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


DO THIS FOR 7 DAYS AND YOU WILL SEE INCREDIBLE RESULTS - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbmDPLqwWqQ

Joe Dispenza - Pavlov's Dogs and the Placebo Effect - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEos13Nvhrs&feature=youtu.be

Bruce Lipton on Rewriting the Program - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=21bxAH6mHc8

How to Get Beyond Yourself to Create Your Own Destiny | Dr. Joe Dispenza - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgj3c42xQvw&feature=youtu.be

Mentally Plan Your Day to Reinvent Your Reality; Dr. Joe Dispenza, Present Moments - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGfQrSSjZbk&feature=youtu.be

Self-Love as True Empowerment with Joe Dispenza, DC - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5EOoeSwAMQ&feature=youtu.be


Transforming your behavior, this week workshop at Chit Chat and personal tips

Posted on August 20, 2018 at 1:55 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog (20th of August – 26th of August) we will discuss highlights of Joe Dispenza’s teachings on transforming your behavior as explained in his book “Breaking the habit of being yourself” and compare this with Joseph Jaworski’s “Inner path to creating knowledge”; we will invite you to our upcoming workshop at Chit Chat Mensing’s Caminada “Breaking the self sabotating behavior. How to recognize, monitor and challenge your negative thinking” and we will end with some personal tips focused on the coherence between the mind and the heart.

Breaking the habit of being yourself

In the Master Your Mind-platform session of the 16th of August we presented Joe Dispenza’s book “Breaking the habit of being yourself, how to loose your mind and create a new one”. (Go to AWESOMEONENESS.WORDPRESS.COM/2017/02/05/BREAKING-THE-HABIT-OF-BEING-YOURSELF/)


Joe Dispenza, D.C. is an international lecturer, researcher, corporate consultant, author, and educator who has been invited to speak in more than 32 countries on five continents. As a lecturer and educator, he is driven by the conviction that each of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities. In his easy-to-understand, encouraging, and compassionate style, he has educated thousands of people, detailing how they can rewire their brains and recondition their bodies to make lasting changes.

He uses the intersection of the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics to help people heal themselves of illnesses, chronic conditions, terminal diseases (spontaneous remissions) so they can enjoy a more fulfilled and happy life, as well as evolve their consciousness. After a biking incident he healed within 11 weeks by visualizing a new healthy three dimensional spine. He then decided to dedicate the rest of life sharing this knowledge that is accessible for all. At his advanced workshops around the world, he has partnered with other scientists to perform extensive research on the effects of meditation. As a corporate consultant, Dr. Joe gives on-site lectures and workshops for businesses and corporations interested in using neuroscientific principles to boost employees’ creativity, innovation, productivity, and more. His corporate program also includes private coaching for upper management. Dr. Joe has personally trained and certified a group of more than 70 corporate trainers who teach his model of transformation to companies around the world. Dipenza says: You are not doomed by your genes and hardwired (you don’t have fixed mindset) to be a certain way for the rest of your life. In the book he shares knowledge to change any aspect of yourself, step-by-steptools to apply what you learn in order to make measurable changes in any area of your life.

“We’re addicted to our beliefs; we’re addicted to the emotions of our past. We see our beliefs as truths, not ideas that we can change. If we have very strong beliefs about something, evidence to the contrary could be sitting right in front of us, but we may not see it because what we perceive is entirely different. We’ve in fact conditioned ourselves to believe all sorts of things that aren’t necessarily true—and many of these things are having a negative impact on our health and happiness. Certain cultural beliefs”.

Dispenza says: “So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways; we have to “be” different in terms of our responses to experiences. We have to “become” someone else. We have to create a new state of mind … we need to observe a new outcome with that new mind.”

“Reason this: When you think from your past memories, you can only create past experiences. As all of the “knowns” in your life cause your brain to think and feel in familiar ways, thus creating knowable outcomes, you continually reaffirm your life as you know it. And since your brain is equal to your environment, then each morning, your senses plug you into the same reality and initiate the same stream of consciousness.”

“So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways; we have to “be” different in terms of our responses to experiences. We have to “become” someone else. We have to create a new state of mind … we need to observe a new outcome with that new mind.”


The 5 Big ideas from the book, source MARTINTHINKS.COM/BREAKING-HABIT-BEING-YOURSELF-REVIEW/

BIG IDEA # 1: TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.

What quantum physicists discovered was that the person observing (or measuring) the tiny particles that make up atoms affects the behavior of energy and matter. Quantum experiments demonstrated that electrons exist simultaneously in an in¬finite array of possibilities or probabilities in an invisible fi¬eld of energy. But only when an observer focuses attention on any location of any one electron does that electron appear. In other words, a particle cannot manifest in reality—that is, ordinary space-time as we know it—until we observe it”. The moment the observer looks for an electron in that invisible field of energy, there is a specific point in time and space when all probabilities of the electron collapse into physical reality. This means that electrons (subatomic particles) exist as pure potential while they are not being observed. When we ‘observe’ it, we can start to act upon it. So, whatever it is you want, the potential is there.

BIG IDEA # 2: LIVE YOUR DESIRED NEW FUTURE IN THE PRESENT

Remember not to live in the future but to bring it to the present. Live it in the present and feel the emotions, feel the happiness and feel everything that comes with it. More importantly, act and think like you’re living in the future, but in the present. So when choices comes up and when situations arrives, deal with them as if the future “you” is dealing with them.

BIG IDEA # 3: THREE : FROM THINKING TO DOING TO BEING.

We have three brains: The first is the Neocortex, which is responsible for our thoughts.The second brain is the Limbic brain,which is responsible for our emotions. The third brain is the Cerebellum, which is responsible for our habitual thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. First, we think about the new concept, then we act on the new concept. Once we act on it enough, we can be the new concept. The second step after thinking is doing. The act of doing represents us teaching our body what our mind has learned. So the first step was for the mind to learn. This second step is for the body to learn. Thirdly, to master being is when our internal chemical state is greater than anything in our external world. That is no matter how many times someone pushes your buttons or no matter how messy the house looks, nothing in your external environment can make you get mad if you, for example want to learn how to be compassionate. ‘If you can master suffering, you can just as easily master joy’ But acting compassionate in only one situation doesn’t necessarily make you a compassionate person. So what you have to do is act it out repeatedly. Only when you act compassionate repeatedly enough, you’ll move on to ‘being‘ compassionate. You no longer have to think of being compassionate, you just are. Being is when your body acts without needing a signal from the mind. It’s natural, routine, second nature and unconscious. You probably know someone who has mastered suffering, right? So you call her and ask, “How are you?” She answers “So-So.” You go on and say “Listen, I’m going to go out with some friends to a new art gallery and then eat at this restaurant that has really healthy desserts. Afterward, we’re going to listen to some live music. Would you like to come with us?” And after a long pause, your friend answers “No. I don’t feel like it.” But if she said what she actually meant, she’d say, I’ve memorized this emotional state, and nothing in my environment – no person, no experience, no condition, no thing – is going to move me from my internal chemical state of suffering. Itfeels better to be in pain than to let go and be happy. I am enjoying my addiction for now, and all these things that you want to do might distract me from my emotional dependency. We can just as easily master an internal chemical state such as joy or compassion as we can and we do for suffering.This also goes mastering our internal state of thinking we’re not good enough. Which is the most common internal state most of us have.

BIG IDEA # 4: THE IDENTITY GAP.

Everyone has two identities: The first is the identity of how you see yourself. The second is the identity of how you appear to others. There’s a gap because we usually don’t want others to see who we truly are inside. The second identity was actually created by us to hide our first identity. But what we actually have to do is change our internal world, closing this gap. The gap was created because we memorized many emotional layers such asunworthiness, anger, fear, shame, self-doubt, and guilt. Our life’s aim is to close the gap. Toreally show who we truly are inside. This is what will make us ultimately fulfilled. Being self-expressed creates happiness. We can do this by unlearning and un-memorizing these emotional states. We can skip from thinking to just being can be done through meditation.

BIG IDEA # 5: BREAKING THE HABIT OF BEING YOURSELF THROUGH MEDITATION.

One of the main purposes of meditation is: Go beyond the conscious mind and enter the subconscious mind; To change self-destructive habits, behaviors, belief, emotional reactions, attitudes, and unconscious states of being. We can skip the doing, to go straight from thinking to being. The power of meditation actually allows us to: become more observant within ourselves; allows us to break our emotional bond with the body, the environment and time. Helps “Breaking The Habits Of Being Yourself”, creating new thoughts and emotions that are congruent with the new future you. We can skip the acting part and just move into being through meditation. Part 3 of the book includes a step-by-step guide to Meditation. It’s a 4/6-week program where Dr. Joe Dispenza shares tools, resources, how to and the reason behind everything. Dr. Joe Dispenza has gone out of his way to explain every little step and to designing a meditation specifically aimed to have you break the habit of being yourself. He even includes guided meditations and many other resources on his website to help best perform this meditation. One important key concept is that actions and results all start from our thoughts.

“Meditation opens the door between the conscious and subconscious minds. We meditate to enter the operating system of the subconscious, where all of those unwanted habits and behaviors reside, and change them to more productive modes to support us in our lives.” “Meditating is also a means for you to move beyond your analytical mind so that you can access your subconscious mind. That’s crucial, since the subconscious is where all your bad habits and behaviors that you want to change reside.”

“To sum up the meditative process, you have to break the habit of being yourself and reinvent a new self; lose your mind and create a new one; prune synaptic connections and nurture new ones; unmemorize past emotions and recondition the body to a new mind and emotions; and let go of the past and create a new future.”

The meditation process Dispenza suggests, consists of these 7 steps
1. Induction – opening the door to your creative state (shifting your brain from Beta to Alpha state)
2. Recognizing – identifying the problem
3. Admitting and Declaring – acknowledging your true self rather than “some-body” else
4. Surrendering – yielding to a greater power and allowing it to resolve your limitations or blocks
5. Observing and Reminding – dismantling the memory of the old you
6. Redirecting – playing the change game
7. Creating and Rehearsing – creating a new mind for your new future.


JOE DISPENZA;s FEEDBACK MECHANISM (META COGNITION) TO MONITOR YOUR PROGRESS CONSISTS OFF:
a. Self reflect and journal to measure your progress;
b. How do you feel after your meditations?
c. How does the self-talk change over time?

There are a lot of similarities between Joe Dispenza’s method and Joseph Jaworski which we discussed in our blog of the 30th of July 2018.
Joseph Jaworski steps consists of (www.uplifting.com go to blog of the 30th of July for more):

1. Meditation;
2. Contemplative practices (testing/feedback/ self reflection and journaling);
3. Energy, maintain good energy via exercising;
4. Being in the nature.

Jaworski uses the U-method for knowledge creation.
As the core group of Share2Uplift we have gained lots of new insights from Joe Dispenza’s book but also from his vast teachings, that he shares abundantly especially via his website www.drjoedispenza.com. We will continue to dig deeper into his teachings and learn from this inspiring person in the very near future.

The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.

As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.

Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.
These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:

• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.

As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.

Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada on the 23rd of August


We would also like to invite you to our next workshop:

“Breaking the cycle of self sabotaging behavior. How to recognize and challenge your negative thinking”.

Date: 23rd of August

Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada. Contact for more info!





Personal coaching tips
This week’s tips are centered around some personal tips focused on the coherence between the mind and the heart. Every single day during the week we will upload one of these video links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

Gregg Braden - It All Starts With Your Heart - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xI2S0BtI_E

 

You Can Change - Dr. Joe Dispenza - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8Mo4S-AtUo


5 Steps to Change Your Life - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDbqsgMwxR8


Lynne McTaggart - How to do intention: Useful Tips - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=kKJMZKZNiJc


Gregg Braden - The Key to Manifestation - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb_sUctxTt8


DR JOE DISPENZA - POSITIVE ENERGY | London Real - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVYQ0JeKZy8


Focus on Building houses and healthy communities. This week Book Session, Upcoming workshop at Chit Chat and this week tips

Posted on August 13, 2018 at 4:10 AM Comments comments (0)

In this week’s blog we will expand on a “Konbibensha”-project at Zapateer’s newest housing project, that was constructed via FKP in collaboration with the Ministery of Social Affairs and the Ministery of Urban and Physical Planning of the government of Curaçao; we will invite you to our next Master Your Mind-platform session on Thursday the 16th of August; we will invite you to our next workshop at Chit Chat at Mensing’s Caminada on the 23rd of August titled “Breaking the cycle of self-sabotaging behavior”and we will end by sharing some personal coaching links focused on “Intention”. Every day we will upload one of these video-links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.


Zapateer newest project, Building houses and healthy communities ('Konbibensha')

As we are interested in initiatives aimed at enabling changed mindsets of people in Curaçao, we approached FKP and interviewed them on one of their most recent projects, the 3-story housing project at Zapateer.

In this project, 72 appartments consisting of 2 or 3 rooms, are being offered to some of their clients divided in three groups of which the first group is already living in the new complex. As the other appartments will come available, the other two groups of habitants selected, are moving in the appartments.


This housing project at Zapateer is part of a joint program financed by the Ministries of Social Affairs and the Urban and Physical planning of the government of Curaçao and F.K.P. This program aims at constructing 134 houses in Zapateer, Montagne and Terra Korra. In Zapateer 72 units appartments were constructed.

Zapateer is in many ways very innovative because,
1. it was constructed adjacent to middle income houses;
2. it was the first time that FKP used 3-stories, the highest up to now were 2-story buildings;
3. it was the fiist time the habitants were thoroughly prepared before they moved in these appartments.

Arthur Con (CEO of FKP): “ We belief that by combining social housing projects with middle income housing, we will contribute in integrating different social groups. We don’t see any problems in that, because when I went to school, there was also an integration of youth from different social backgrounds that took place, so we belief this is also a way to break social barriers. Furthermore we have invested and will continue to pay attention to what we call community building “Konbibensha” via information sessions and follow up sessions offered to the new habitants in this project”.

Andira Kwidama (Manager Customer Service Operations FKP): “Scarcity of available land has challenged FKP to look a multiple story appartments to deal with the lack of sufficient social housing in Curaçao, but in a way this was also a challenge as we are not accustomed to live in multi-story building in Curaçao. This challenged us to do some additional work to prepare the future habitants to live in this project. This is why FKP, the Ministries of Social Affairs and Urban and Physical Planning in a multi disciplinary group did some extra preparatory work before the new habitants could move to their appartments”. “We considered it very important to prepare these new habitants, so our multi disciplinary group offered them information sessions as of February this year during 9 weeks from 6 pm to 9 pm. We are happy to say, that the attendance and motivation was high and there was an active participation of the habitants.



The information sessions were on:
• Budgettting;
• Healthy eating;
• Safety issues required by the Fire-department;
• Security issues;
• For parents of children between 2 and 12 years, also “upbringing and education”;
• Building healthy communities or “Konbibensha”;
• Rules of FKP on how to take good care of their appartment.


The new habitants were carfefully selected from FKP’s waiting list (8000 people) based on the following criteria.They needed to:
• be on the FKP-waiting list;
• have an urgent need for housing;
• be officially registred as inhabitants in Curaçao;
• have an income,
• compulsory participation in the information sessions during the preaparotory phase before they could move to their appartments;
• be an reflection of our society, representing different age groups, workers and elderly to have a balanced group to mention some of the criteria we used and we also took their overall social needs into consideration;

“The selection of the new habitants in the project was not an easy task, because of course we want to help as many as possible people on the waitinglist, but in the Zapateerproject only 72 appartments were available”.


What are your experiences up to now with the project?
“We have asked the first group to evaluate the first information sessions we offered and based on that, we have made some adjustment to improve these sessions. For example we are paying more attention now in the session for the second and third group, that are underway to: Hygiene & environment; ethics and more in depth attention to budgetting”.

“We have had to select some new habitants after some that were selected oiriginally failed to attend regularly the information sessions. But we have noticed a great deal of appreciation from those whom finished and already started to live in the appartments”.

“We have also noticed that some of those we selected originally, needed to be placed in different housing projects, there are some that have financial issues like, they can’t afford the extra rent and costs of utilities, but we are learning as we go. It is our firm intention to continue to work in Montagne and Terra Korra in a multi disciplinary group, because we are convinced that this is the best way, we can improve our clients “konbibensha” and quality of life. We also are very considerate when allocating the appartments to those whom are of older age or have mobility issues, they get the ground floor appartments”.

‘To guarantee a system to monitor the execution of what we planned, we have upfront made a profile of an administrator for the complex. We selected an administrator from our waitinglist and that person participated in all the information sessions and also is one of the habitants. They know whom is the administrator.

The role of the chosen administrator is to be the first person the habitants will approach if the are maintenance issues and also the administrator will look after the compliance of the FKP rules regarding the housing projects.

Furthermore the multi-disciplinary group will continue to have follow up sessions and by doing this we aim to improve compliance and aim to contribute to a healthy community ('Konbibensha').

“This innovative approach was a challenge for us (FKP) in another sense, because it required intense collaboration between the different stakeholders, like SOAW, “Familie & Jeugd”, Skuchami, Fire Department, Ministry of Urban and Physical Planning, but also close collaboration within different departments in FKP. On a weekly basis we have feedback sessions so we can learn to improve the service to our clients.

We are aware that we need to continue our efforts to achieve complaince, but we have anticipated this challenge by informing the habitants of the consequences if there is a failure of compliance. After two warnings in the third warning there will be sanctions. Further more like in every “bario”, this project also has its social worker and together with the administrator we are confident that we have taken enough pre-cautionary measures to guarantee a good “konbibensha”. For our workers this has been a very satisfying experience, being able to improve the quality of life of our clients. Although we are aware of the fact that there are more people in need, the first steps in this new innovative approach were taken”.

As the coregroup opf Share2Uplift we commend all those involved for the innovative way they approached the Zapateer-project and also be the way they have created a system to evaluate and monitor the development within this project.


The goal of the core group of Share2Uplift for 2018
As the Share2Uplift movement our goal for 2018 is to identify 250 ethical leaders (Influencers) to be empowered by 21st century mindsets and are connected and collaborate with one another to create value for the whole of the society.

As Share2Uplift we are fully trying to align with this thinking of Center for Curriculum Redesign to promote this agenda in our educational systems and workplace. So, in that sense we fully support any initiative to make our educational system 21st century proof.
Share2Uplift aligners are those that:
– Create an inspiring vision of the future;
– Motivate and inspire people to engage with that vision;
– Manage delivery of the vision;
– Coach and built a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.

These criteria are now being polished.

We also consider these 5 values of the most important ones for Share2Uplift aligners. They are:
• Peace from within;
• Compassion;
• Respectfulness;
• Integrity;
• Responsibility.
As we will progress towards this goal we will update you on the progress.
Visit the website for more information.

This week Master Your Mind-platform session on the 16th of August
Please be invited to our upcoming MYM-platform session on the 16th of August, at Biblioteka Nashonal.

From: 7 - 8.30 pm

Entrance: FREE

We will be presenting the books Breaking the habit of being yourself, by Joe Dispenza (presented by Ivan Kuster) and Homo Deus, by Yuval Harari (presented by Michiel van de Veur). We will connect the content of these books with what we presented on yesterday, focused on how to create your own future. Bring along a friend and hope to welcome you on the 16th of August.



Our next Chit Chat Workshop at Mensing’s Caminada

We would also like to invite you to our next workshop:

“Breaking the cycle of self sabotaging behavior. How to recognize and challenge your negative thinking”.

Date: 23rd of August

Time: 7 – 9 pm

Place: Chit Chat Café Mensing’s Caminada. Contact for more info!


Personal coaching tips

This week we will share some personal coaching links focused on “Intention”. Every day we will upload one of these video-links on our Facebook.com/share2uplift page.

INTENTION | MOTIVATIONAL VIDEO - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKvB7AcrCIk


INTENTION - Powerful Motivational Video - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wy8XbK-R7CQ


The Best Motivation Video 2016 - INTENTION - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=QR85CIaxZ_4


Discipline And Intent - Motivational Video - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?vd9sWl0nIfI


Key Points of Meditation Intention and Motivation Part1 HD - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoPUOJn6gQA


Key Points of Meditation Intention and Motivation Part2 HD - YouTube
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScoRMGeSm34





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